Like most people, I get angry when I hear about violence that is striking down the world. Each day we read stories of rape and violence against children and women and it makes me boil with anger. I get angry when things go wrong in my life and when my bubbles of joy are burst by a person I love. And, amongst these situations, I try to put a smile on my face. My friends always wonder how Daphne is always cheerful, even on a rainy day! Off course they know my life is not a bed of roses and that I experience problems and situations that most people do. Yet I tend to smile and leave my worries behind. There is a reason for my smile.
I was a teenager who lived in my own world filled with rainbows and candies. I was grumpy and rebellious at home and did not really know or care about sharing happiness. At the age of 18, I visited an NGO that worked with women and children. I was studying Communications and was writing a story about the lives and struggles of these women. I met a young girl around my age who had been raped by her step father many times. She was there weaving baskets and living one day at a time. I told her ingenuously that I was sorry for not knowing what I could say to make her feel better. She looked at me and said, “A smile is what I need”. This certainly was not an answer I expected from her. Later she shared about how people look at her with sympathy and sadness but never smiled with her. She is a person filled with hope and optimism. That is where I got my smile from!
All of us face times when we wonder if we will ever laugh again. I know these moments and wondered where laughter has gone only to discover that it hides within us. It invites us to rush to life’s game again and share it with others. We may not know who needs it but it never goes wasted.
Spread your smile and see the difference it can make! Remember, there is never a reason to smile.